attraction and a small story
Okay so I've had gummi worms, a peanut butter cup, and an iced tea tonight. Sugar overload = Erica needing to be occupied at all times. I've already done all the interim work I can do before the subject wakes up, so this means I will do some more blogging.
First the small story:
Freshman year of college when all the little freshmen think it's cool to go to frat houses and party, I went to a frat house and partied. I was in a basement of a brick house on like...center street or something when I heard a song. I thought to myself, I have to remember some words of this song because I like it and I'll want to download it later. (old school audiogalaxy style hell yeah) Of course I didn't really remember any words but I kept the overall tune in my head for when I heard it again so I could once again try to figure out what it was. (Keep in mind that I suck at music stuff, I'm much better with film)
Last night I was driving to Andrew's house to hang out for awhile when I heard the song on the radio, this was the first time since that party that I'd heard it, and I'm 95% sure that it was the same song. So I listen really hard, trying to remember if it was the one I heard before, and I realize that it's a Pearl Jam song. I know this because Pat's favorite band was Pearl Jam so I recognize their singing now. (kind of odd that I hadn't heard it when I was with him but whatever)
So I think, "ha!" I can look it up on cdnow.com (or amazon for the picky folks) and find out what it is. So I go to a Pearl Jam greatest hits cd and listen to every song on it. I start getting frustrated because I don't hear the song at all. I get to the last song on the last disc of the 2 disc set. There it is. I realize I've heard of the title before, I think it's pretty famous and now I feel stupid for not knowing the song, but oh well. I finally figured it out, and now Yellow Ledbetter will haunt me no more.
I just talked to Pat yesterday for the first time in awhile, I was talking about Nate with Andrew tonight, and I saw Angelo over the weekend. So I was thinking about all my exes/current boy toy and what they have in common and what they differ in. I was also thinking about what I have to have in a guy and what I don't like. Just some thoughts:
-MOST of the time (there have been exceptions) I am only attracted to guys with dark hair. I think the dark hair/eyebrows framing the face thing just makes people look better to me. However I am biased, I have dark hair. In every serious relationship I've had the guy had dark hair (except Nate but he doesn't count because the hair was pink and then blue)
-Intelligence is key. Crucial. I prefer genius but I could handle someone with some really good common sense instead. Although with some genius you get too far into your own head and you end up with schizophrenic qualities like an ex I won't mention.
It's funny, the things you actively don't like about the person you're with and then the next person you're with you make sure they don't have those things but then you find different things wrong with them. I guess a little weeding out is necessary for a long lasting relationship with someone. Things I've realized I don't like only after experiencing them with a partner are:
-doing embarrassing things and making me feel stupid for being around them (that's a huge one)
-being too clingy
-being too short for me (every ex I've ever had, finally I've learned)
-being too much overweight or underweight
-drinking so much that it borders on alcoholism
I just realized these things make me sound like I'm advertising for a new boyfriend or something. I'm not. I find Andrew to be amazing, and everything I said I would like in someone I can see in him. It's still fun to think about preferences and qualities of the opposite (or sometimes same) sex.
First the small story:
Freshman year of college when all the little freshmen think it's cool to go to frat houses and party, I went to a frat house and partied. I was in a basement of a brick house on like...center street or something when I heard a song. I thought to myself, I have to remember some words of this song because I like it and I'll want to download it later. (old school audiogalaxy style hell yeah) Of course I didn't really remember any words but I kept the overall tune in my head for when I heard it again so I could once again try to figure out what it was. (Keep in mind that I suck at music stuff, I'm much better with film)
Last night I was driving to Andrew's house to hang out for awhile when I heard the song on the radio, this was the first time since that party that I'd heard it, and I'm 95% sure that it was the same song. So I listen really hard, trying to remember if it was the one I heard before, and I realize that it's a Pearl Jam song. I know this because Pat's favorite band was Pearl Jam so I recognize their singing now. (kind of odd that I hadn't heard it when I was with him but whatever)
So I think, "ha!" I can look it up on cdnow.com (or amazon for the picky folks) and find out what it is. So I go to a Pearl Jam greatest hits cd and listen to every song on it. I start getting frustrated because I don't hear the song at all. I get to the last song on the last disc of the 2 disc set. There it is. I realize I've heard of the title before, I think it's pretty famous and now I feel stupid for not knowing the song, but oh well. I finally figured it out, and now Yellow Ledbetter will haunt me no more.
I just talked to Pat yesterday for the first time in awhile, I was talking about Nate with Andrew tonight, and I saw Angelo over the weekend. So I was thinking about all my exes/current boy toy and what they have in common and what they differ in. I was also thinking about what I have to have in a guy and what I don't like. Just some thoughts:
-MOST of the time (there have been exceptions) I am only attracted to guys with dark hair. I think the dark hair/eyebrows framing the face thing just makes people look better to me. However I am biased, I have dark hair. In every serious relationship I've had the guy had dark hair (except Nate but he doesn't count because the hair was pink and then blue)
-Intelligence is key. Crucial. I prefer genius but I could handle someone with some really good common sense instead. Although with some genius you get too far into your own head and you end up with schizophrenic qualities like an ex I won't mention.
-I love confidence, bordering on cocky but not assholish. Like James Spader in just about every film he's done.
-Flirtiness is good, even when in a relationship for awhile. Being silly together can count for that. And of course, there's no question about a sense of humor.
-Romantic surprises every once in awhile would be awesome. (what girl doesn't want that) For example, someone surprising me at my work with flowers on my birthday, just off the top of my head ;-)
-An open mind is a must. Anyone who knows me knows that I advocate for homosexuality, porn, Howard Stern, ecetera, and I won't be able to deal with a guy with too conservative of views.
-Nobody kill me, but I think smoking is sexy. Not chain smoking or anything, just the look of a hot guy with a cigarette, just chillin outside being cool. I know, smoking doesn't = coolness but I can't help what I am attracted to. Plus it reminds me of the bad-boy types which I definitely have a soft spot for.
It's funny, the things you actively don't like about the person you're with and then the next person you're with you make sure they don't have those things but then you find different things wrong with them. I guess a little weeding out is necessary for a long lasting relationship with someone. Things I've realized I don't like only after experiencing them with a partner are:
-doing embarrassing things and making me feel stupid for being around them (that's a huge one)
-being too clingy
-being too short for me (every ex I've ever had, finally I've learned)
-being too much overweight or underweight
-drinking so much that it borders on alcoholism
I just realized these things make me sound like I'm advertising for a new boyfriend or something. I'm not. I find Andrew to be amazing, and everything I said I would like in someone I can see in him. It's still fun to think about preferences and qualities of the opposite (or sometimes same) sex.
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